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There is only “you and me” but no “us” (pseudo-relationship)
The “you’re together but not really” stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends. Pseudo-girlfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite committed lovers.
There may be verbal agreement or not. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, or neither have said anything. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. No formal wooing occurred. You’re not together. But in the way you both move, the things you say to each other, it feels like you’re together, but not really.
This kind of “relationship” can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, you just don’t want to get back together yet. It can also happen before a relationship, both parties wanting to get a feel for it. It’s also possible that both of you don’t really want a serious relationship so you’re just playing it by ear, testing it. Maybe because one of you is currently in a relationship. So while he hasn’t broken up with his girlfriend (he says he’s going to but he never really gets to do it), you don’t have a relationship with you so he wouldn’t be cheating since there was no other relationship anyway.
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. This is especially true if you’re really just looking for someone to “play” with. Just don’t expect to actually get to a relationship because there’s no certainty.
So why do a lot of people settle for this type of setup if there’s no particular goal? A lot of different reasons. It could be just for fun. It could be “better this than nothing” or just until you find someone else. This means that as long as we don’t have the real thing, stay with the pretend relationship.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that a pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that “butterfly in stomach” feeling. But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of setup, someone ends up with the short end of the stick, the one that fell in love with someone who isn’t reciprocating.
Firstly, you can’t ask him to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you can’t demand commitment from your partner. You’re not together. You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can’t expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Who are you to be jealous?
Secondly, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can’t be sure if he feels the same way. You may just be assuming that he loves you too. Even if you are trying to tell him you love him, you can’t because you’re not sure if he will like it. You might just embarrass yourself. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship or if there is a relationship at all.
Thirdly, what if you become too attached? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn’t? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
Another downside of pseudo-relationships is it’s fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, you don’t know where to position yourself in a pseudo-relationship.
You have no hold.
In a pseudo-relationship,there only exists “you and me”.
There is no “us”
forever and ever, baby
Everyone might not notice or even know that the boyfriend and I did experience that greatest and I must say ugliest situation regarding our relationship. Yes! We did break-up for almost 2 months because we (or maybe it’s only an I) can’t handle our differences even if we are now on our 8th year and a month.
It wasn’t the best experience of my life because I feel so empty without him by my side although we do talk over the phone, through text or maybe through Y!M but the feeling of being beside him is still different.
Nevertheless, we did learn our lessons as well as have that serious talk regarding our differences, likes and dislikes. I can say we did change a lot over that 2 months break-up even the love changes. Yes! It did changed because we love each other even more now than before.
We are finally back in each other’s arms and hopefully our relationship will work out just fine. I am an open minded person and I know that problems are always there but I am definitely sure that we’ll make it through.
It’s going to be 8 years and counting for us.
PS. I just blog about it today because I can’t contain my happiness anymore. I’m in a total bliss right now for having him back into my life.
LUv is… prang DOTA
c Enchantress k b?
-habang lumalayo ako sau, mas masakit..
c Doom k b?
-pag-anjan ka, mainit paligid ko..
c Silencer k b?
-kpg anjan ka, natatahimik ako..
c Beastmaster k b?
-maalaga ka kc..
c slardar k b?
-kc ms lumalakas tama ko sau..
c darkterror k b?
-ikaw lng gumagalaw sa mundo ko..
c razor k b?
- nakukuryente kc puso q sau..
c nerubian weaver k b?
-naghahabol aq lagi sau..
c omniknight k b?
-ikaw ang aking Guardian Angel..
bka naman CREEP k?
-lagi kasi kitang kasama..
hmm..
c phantom lancer b?
-cnong pipiliin ko sa inyo?
c techies b?
-suicide na ako kapag ala ka..
c leoric b?
-binubuhay mo ulit ako..
c crystal maiden b?
-kinikilig aq pag ksma k..
c pudge b?
-nahuli mo kc puso q..
c mirana b?
-dahil sau, napapatalon ako sa saya..
Frozen Throne o World Tree k b??
-kapag wala ka na, wala ng dahilan pa
para lumaban pa..Ü
Hey mister! You betta read this one.
When she walks away from you mad, follow her
When she stare’s at your lips, kiss her
When she pushes you or hits you, grab her and don’t let go
When she start’s cursing at you, kiss her and tell her you love her
When she’s quiet, ask her what’s wrong
When she ignore’s you, give her your attention
When she pulls away, pull her back
When you see her at her worst, tell her she’s beautiful
When you see her start crying, just hold her and don’t say a word
When you see her walking, sneak up and hug her waist from behind
When she’s scared, protect her
When she lays her head on your shoulder, tilt her head up and kiss her
When she steal’s your favorite hat, let her keep it
When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh
When she doesn’t answer for a long time, reassure her that everything is okay
When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up with the truth
When she says that she likes you, she really does more than you could understand
When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers
When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh
When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold
When she looks at you in your eyes, don’t look away until she does
When she misses you, she’s hurting inside
When you break her heart, the pain NEVER really goes away so be careful
When she says its over, she STILL wants you to be hers
- Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything
- Always call her when you know somethings wrong
- Say you love her more than she could ever love you
- Argue that she is the best girl ever
- When she’s mad hug her tight and don’t let go
- When she says she’s ok don’t believe it, talk to her
- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her
- Call her at 12:00am on a normal day to tell her you love her
- Send her flowers, just because
- Talk about your problems
- Call her before you sleep and after you wake up
- Treat her like she’s all that matters to you
- Tease her and let her tease you back
-Stay up all night with her when she’s sick
- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid
- Give her the world
- Let her wear your clothes
- When she’s bored and sad, hang out with her
- Let her know she’s important
- Kiss her in the pouring rain
-Pretty and beautiful is soooo much better than calling her hot
- When she runs up to you, crying, the first thing you say is: “Whose ass am I kicking today, baby?”
the meantime boy
He enters your living room without hesitation because he knows he’s always welcome there. You can never completely get angry with him because you’ll forgive him anyway (why expend the energy on that?) There’s no real pressure to look good for him, or to domesticate yourself, because hell, he probably cooks better than you do. you don’t get disappointed when he doesn’t open the door for you, or perform any of the perfunctory genteel mannerisms frequently assigned to a “gentleman” (ergo, a prospect). if he sees you as a buddy, then you really don’t quite see him as a “man”… much more the “gentle” kind.
But that doesn’t mean these signs of breeding are alien to him (it’s just that around you, he can slip up and live to see the next day). More often than not, he’s one of those dudes on top of the food chain. Why else wouldn’t you mind having him confused as a boyfriend? And the mere fact that he doesn’t mind (well, not really) being seen with you says he sees you being in that level too - especially if he has to contend with the are-you-guys-together interrogation as well.
And admit it, the pestering questions from well-meaning people are well-founded. You’ve both acquired the mannerisms of an old couple - there are no awkward silences, no trite comments, no hesitations. Physical intimacy can stretch from holding hands to cross the street to a prolonged embrace when one of you feels bad. It’s true, you’re around each other when life’s vicissitudes erupt. He’ll be the first person at your doorstep, maybe even getting there before you do, because you told him you were just fine (wonderful, could’t be better) - and he recognized the devastation in your voice . And you, you don’t even need to say how proud you are of him (how awkward can that be!)- you knew, you believed in him way before he did.
Where your relationship is is where other couple’s relationships should be - given fifteen years or so. Only you’ve had this chemistry too soon, way before either one of you will ever recognize just how irreplaceable it is. It was never the result of time, negotiation or compromise. It’s just one of those things that came too easily, so naturally it’s laughable to call it precious (it’s so many other things - just NOT that word). It’s like telling a piano prodigy to practice when he can play Mozart’s Symphony in E Minor after one listening. Just plain absurd.
But admit it, being around this Meantime Boy has given you an inkling of what it would feel like to be with The One. What you feel when you’re with him - how secure, how profound or how silly you both can be - these are the stuff you need in lifelong commitments! Think about it. He’s probably seen you sweat it out on the track (thus disproving the myth that girls don’t sweat), just as much as you’ve seen him develop one too many love handles. Not even for charity will you ever HAVE TO take it easy on him in the court. He’s had one too many fashion faux pas for his own good, mispronounced so many words you’ve lost count and he probably farts in front of you. On the other hand, he’s seen you have bed head, trip on your feet, and cry like a baby when John Kofi gets the chair. Almost perfect, isn’t it? Just add mad, incredible passion (the one missing ingredient) to this comfortable stew and you’ve got somethiing so rare it will leave you breathless.
So the truth is Meantime Girl, there is a reason for this meantime-ness… and you better have the good sense to know it’s not to wait for him to snap out of his immaturity (or for you to make the first move-neva!). He’s your Meantime Boy because you need to learn from him what truly ennabling relationships are - and not to confuse that with those that are disguisingly constricting. He’s around because you need to recognize the primacy of friendship (that’s why FRIEND is the bigger word in GIRLFRIEND). He’s there because you need to believe that you can be seen as a thinking human being - and not the commodity so closely associated with your gender.
The Meantime Boy grants you the liberty to love - because while he is an accomodating recipient of your affections, he silently gives way when someone else steps into your life. He gives you THAT look, the don’t-you-dare-fall-in-love-with-me Care Bear Stare whenever your get your ends all mixed up. Don’t despair and take heed: his very indifference is his gift to you.
By being oblivious to your adoration, he sets you free to be someone else’s forever. And when this man, this god, finally arrives to sweep you off your feet, he’ll marvel at the perfect jewel you are: how you never begrudge Sunday Night Football, how you confidently possess your own mind and project the very essence of graciousness. And why wouldn’t you be? You’ve had years of practice.
LOVE FACTS.
GIRLS FACTS
When a girl is mean to you after a break-up, she wants you back but she is too
scared she’ll get hurt and knows you’re gone forever.
When you catch a girl glancing at you,
she wants you to look back and smile.
When a girl bumps into your arm, while walking with you
she wants you to hold her hand.
When she wants a hug
she will just stand there.
When you break a girl’s heart
she still feels it when you run into each other 3 years later.
When a girl is quiet,
millions of things are running through her mind.
When a girl is not arguing,
She is thinking deeply.
When a girl looks at you with eyes full of questions,
she is wondering how long you will be around.
When a girl answers, “I’m fine,” after a few seconds,
She is not fine at all
When a girl stares at you,
she is wondering why you are playing games.
When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever.
When a girl says she can’t live without you,
she has made up her mind that you are her future.
When a girl says, “I miss you,”
no one in this world can miss you more than that.
GUYS FACTS
When a guy calls you,
He wants to be with you.
When a guy is quiet,
He’s listening to you.
When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he’s wrong.
When a guy says, “I’m fine” after a few minutes
He means it.
When a guy stares at you,
He wishes you would care about him and wonders if you do.
When you’re laying your head on a guy’s chest,
He has the world.
When a guy calls/texts/comments/messages you everyday,
He is in love.
When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
He means it.
When a guy says he can’t live without you,
He’s with you till you’re done.
When a guy says, “I miss you,”
He misses you more than you could have ever missed him or anything else.
The Meantime Girl
She`s the one you call when you`re bored because she makes you laugh. She`s the one you talk to when you`re feeling down because she`s willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She`s not the one you call when you need a date to your company`s Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night. She`s the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find `The One`. You know, the one you keep in the MEANTIME.
She`s not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don`t look at her as a “real” woman, either. She`s not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in the light. She`s too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She`s too understanding, too comfortable. Doesn`t make you feel nervous or excited the way a `real` woman does. But she`s cool, nice and funny, and attractive enough that when you`re lonely and need intimate female companionship, she`ll do just fine.
You don`t have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don`t have any facades to keep up, no pretense to preserve. You`re not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She`s not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you. And you know that you don`t have to explain yourself or the situation, that she`ll be able to cope with the fact that this isn`t the beginning of a relationship or that there`s any possiblity that you have any real romantic feelings for her.
It won`t bother her that you`ll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you`ve been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She`ll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She`s just so cool.. why can`t all women be like that?!
But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don`t.. because to you, the situation between the two of you isn`t important enough to merit any real thought) you know that it`s really not fair.
You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don`t think she`s good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it`smostly her fault, because she doesn`t have to give in to your needs - she could really play hard-to-get. Bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn`t pull it off. Maybe she`s too short, or a little overweight, or has big birthmark on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell, or just really not that type.
Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.
You`ll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and she`ll laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.
She doesn`t captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile.
Mainly, she blends in with the crowd. She`s safe. She doesn`t want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone`s head. She wants to be SPECIAL to someone, too. We all do.
She has feelings. She has heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger heart than any woman you`ve ever known because she`s had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway.
She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you`ve given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is. - Anonymous
Why do boys fall in love with girls.
REPOST.
Got it from Janna’s myspace blog
(This was written by a guy)
it’s so sweet! 
1. Girl’s always smell good even if it is just shampoo
2. The way their head always finds the right spot on our shoulders
3. How cute they look when they sleep
4. The ease in which they fit into our arms
5 . The way they kiss you and all of sudden everything in the world is right
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way it takes them hours to get dressed but in the end it’s all worth while
8. Because they are always warm even if it’s -30 outside
9. They look good no matter what they wear
10. The way they fish for compliments even though you both know that you think she’s the most beautiful girl on earth